Learning to be mama

This week, Lottie and I seem to have settled down a little bit. She is sleeping a little longer, waking a little longer and becoming more aware of people and her surroundings.

The visitors have slowed down, but we’ve still been pretty busy and overall, we are still on a huge learning curve. So my word of the week is:


When you start a new job, you have training or a mentor.

When you learn a new subject, you are invited to lectures and seminars.

When you embark on a new sport or hobby, you generally have a trainer or coach.

When you have a baby, you are sent home with a few leaflets and the number of the health visitor in case you have any questions.

It seems very strange when you think of it that way, that we are now in charge of a small, incredibly precious life and we don’t have a manual, or any training.

Each time something new happens to Lottie, we find ourselves calling family or friends, or asking Google for advice, guidance and help. Each day throws a new situation at us and so each day we are learning more and more. More about Lottie, more about ourselves and more about parenting and family and ultimately about love and care.

I am loving learning on the job, but I am also totally overwhelmed at times by the huge responsibility that comes with it.

Worried that I will do the wrong thing, make the wrong decision, take the wrong course of action.

So far, we seem to be doing OK. Lottie is putting on weight, developing well and seems pretty content and that is our only measure as to how well we are doing. We don’t have a probation period or any appraisals. No KPIs or targets.

My mum has been away this week and I’ve really realised how much I have relied on her for help and advice since Lottie was born and not having her at the end of the phone has probably made me appreciate her even more.

But it has also made me fend for myself, make my own judgements and get on and care for Lottie. And we have made it to Friday.

I think that deserves a glass of wine.

The Reading Residence


  1. September 25, 2015 / 5:12 pm

    It definitely does! You’re right, it’s the most important job you’ll ever do, yet you get the least advice on how to actually do it. It’s such a learning curve, and it keeps on going with every new stage and age. As long as you’re all happy, you know you’re on the right track 🙂 Thanks for sharing with #WotW x

    • heelsandhooves
      September 26, 2015 / 9:36 am

      It’s mad when you think about it isn’t it? I think you should have to go on a course and pass a test while pregnant!! Thanks for hosting lovely xx #wotw

  2. karenblower
    September 25, 2015 / 5:16 pm

    Jocelyn is right. As long as you are all happy then it’s all good. Don’t get involved in the Baby Olympics.. “Oh my little whoever does this” and “Oh but my little darling did that weeks ago…” Even at this age Lottie is her own person and she’ll do things when she’s ready.
    Mine are 11 and 8… I’m still learning 😉

    • heelsandhooves
      September 26, 2015 / 9:38 am

      You’re so right Karen I think we all accept we are different people as grown ups, but expect all babies to be the same! Glad it’s not just me! Xx #wotw

  3. September 25, 2015 / 10:23 pm

    Hehe I know what you are going through. At the beginning there’s lots to learn. Then it’s about repetition and before you know it you’re handing out advice like the other mum’s did for you in the early days or blogging about it.#WoTW

    • heelsandhooves
      September 26, 2015 / 9:41 am

      I can’t imagine ever handing out advice – I feel like such a novice! But I bet you’re right xx

  4. September 25, 2015 / 10:25 pm

    Oh I remember those days so well, being unsure and learning each day. But it sounds you’re happy and the discovery of life together, bonding over every day moments. Do things at your own pace and enjoy every moment, time goes by too quickly!!

    • heelsandhooves
      September 26, 2015 / 9:40 am

      Great advice. It’s already racing past! Thanks lovely xx