Dear Lottie Bella: Three years old

Dear Lottie Bella

Three. It sounds so much older than two. Three years old is a little girl, no longer a baby or even a toddler, but a fully fledged child. And if I’m honest I’m not sure I’ll ever be ready for that. But what a gorgeous little girl you are growing into darling.

I did my usual sob on the eve of your birthday. Time passes so quickly, and I just want to hold onto every last minute of you being little, but also of watching you grow up. It’s bittersweet and every parent will understand that feeling.

three year old laughing at bubbles in the garden

You’ve had a lovely birthday. In fact, you’ve sort of had three days of celebrations already and there’s another to come on Sunday when we go to the zoo to see real life chimps. I cannot wait to see your face. We had a family day with cake and presents and fun, but it had to be the day before your real birthday, as daddy had to work on the big day. So we then went to soft play on the real day with our lovely friends (it poured with rain, totally unlike the day your were born). And today we have been to a teddy bear’s picnic in the woods with lots more of your friends. What a lucky girl you’ve been with so much love and fun.

The last six months since I wrote to you have seen such a huge leap in your development. You are now signing so much more and trying so hard to talk. You have a few words and are saying so many more sounds. I love to see your delight when you manage to make the sound you’re trying to make or when you learn a new sign. You’ve also just started to ask for things with Makaton, which will help so much as I hate to think you can’t express what you want sometimes.

You have really developed some strong friendships now, especially with Sam, who says you are his best friend, and you nod very enthusiastically and sign yes over and over when I ask if he is your best friend. There are also some other close bonds with Edie, Verity, Alexa, Bea, Alessia, and I’m sure many more, some that I don’t know about because you can’t tell me who you play with at preschool. It’s so lovely that despite your lack of speech, your personality obviously shines through, as you seem to be well liked and love to play with your friends.

Your bond with Frankie is really growing now and you really look after her and play so nicely with her. You are also forming strong relationships with lots of family members and often ask for nanny and gangad when we get in the car.

We went to Center Parcs again since I last wrote to you and you had a whale of a time. It was nice for you to have Frankie walking, so you had a little play mate. You just love being out and about and exploring there, it’s lovely to see you so free and happy.

Your sleep continues to be amazing – you still haven’t dropped your afternoon nap and 99 per cent of the time, you sleep through the night, even when Frankie is crying next door. Eating is a bit more of a challenge. Your menu is quite limited, but when you do like something (mainly pasta, grapes and gingerbread men), you eat really well.

Recently you’ve been loving:


Daddy recently started taking you to swimming lessons on a Sunday morning. Despite being a bit unsure of it all at first, you really quickly got stuck in and now you cry when we get you out of the pool at the end. You absolutely love it.


Monkey the toy is your absolute favourite. If monkey can do it, you can do. He has convinced you to have your hair dried, eat new things, wave, so many things. You also love monkeys in general, hence the birthday cake.

toddler in bed with cuddly monkey, looking surprised with hand over her mouth

Being outside

Come rain or shine, you adore being outside. You’d play out all day long if you could. You often ask to go out now, saying ‘gar gar’ for garden.


You love to dance. The louder the music, the better. And you don’t care where you are, you’ll dance anywhere.


You love all animals and just adore going to the farm. You make lots of animal sounds now too, and know nearly all the makaton signs.


You love that dog of yours. Anywhere he is, you’re not far away, and as soon as we get in the car to go home, you start asking for ‘woo woo’.


Every day you go and fetch your watering can and you love to see how all the plants have grown. You’ve grown some courgettes and beetroot from seed and you grew a sunflower at preschool. You’re so proud of them.

Preschool and the school run

I’m not sure which you love best, actually going to preschool, or the journey home with your Sam. The two of you hold hands, giggle, play. It’s one of the highlights of my day, just watching you enjoy your time together.


Lottie it’s difficult to put into words what a delight you are to have around. You’re always ready with a smile when someone talks to you or even looks in your direction. You’re sweet and gentle, but you have a wicked sense of humour. It sounds a bit sickly, but you genuinely light up my heart every morning when I see you. Your little personality is really developing now, and you’re getting cheeky and sometimes tell me no, but it’s always with a cheeky little smile.

The way you fight against your difficulties and continue to try despite how hard things can be for you is a true testament of your character. Sure you get frustrated sometimes, but you never get angry. You just keep trying until you get there. You tackle life with dignity, grace and with a smile. I could not be more proud of you if I tried. I will be with you, holding your hand and cheering you on for every single step of your life, I promise you that. Keep going little girl, you’re doing amazingly well. Don’t ever ever change, you’re perfect, just as you are.

All my love forever

Mama xxx



  1. August 21, 2018 / 9:28 am

    That made me a bit emotional. Itโ€™s amazing just how quickly they grow up and since you last wrote a letter to her she seems to have decided that she is going to learn loads more in that short time. It sounds like she had a fabulous 3 day birthday spent with some amazing people xx

    • heelsandhooves
      August 21, 2018 / 9:25 pm

      Aaw, thanks lovely. It does go so so fast, doesn’t it. It always makes me tear up a bit when I look back at these posts xx

  2. August 21, 2018 / 1:20 pm

    Aww what a gorgeous little girl you have there. Your love for her really shines through your post, as well as your emotions… which I have to admit made me feel a bit teary. They grow up so quickly donโ€™t they! Sending belated birthday wishes and cake ?

    • heelsandhooves
      August 21, 2018 / 9:26 pm

      Aaw thank you so much. They do grow up so fast! xx

  3. August 22, 2018 / 4:46 pm

    Happy belated birthday! I know exactly how you feel – my daughter turned 3 a couple of months ago & she is totally not a baby anymore ๐Ÿ™ Lovely photos x

    • heelsandhooves
      August 22, 2018 / 10:21 pm

      Happy belated birthday to your little girl too. I wasn’t really ready for her to be a little girl, but they’ll always be our babies! xx

  4. August 22, 2018 / 7:31 pm

    Awe what a sweet post to read! My niece is now 3, her independence is coming on leaps and bounds. Sounds like your daughter’s confidence is too ๐Ÿ™‚

    • heelsandhooves
      August 22, 2018 / 10:20 pm

      Thanks so much. Yes, she’s finally finding her feet a little bit now. It’s lovely to watch xx

  5. August 22, 2018 / 7:39 pm

    What beautiful pictures, sounds like your daughter had a wonderful birthday. Her cake looks amazing. This is a really lovely way to capture all of your special memories together.

    • heelsandhooves
      August 22, 2018 / 10:19 pm

      Thank you so much. I love looking back on these posts as you forget so much when they’re growing up so fast xx

  6. August 22, 2018 / 9:00 pm

    What a wonderful letter to your beautiful daughter. She sounds such a fun little girl and enjoy every moment

    • heelsandhooves
      August 22, 2018 / 10:19 pm

      Aaw thank you so much. She is indeed xx

  7. August 22, 2018 / 9:49 pm

    What an amazing letter to write for your daughters third birthday. She sounds like such a beautiful, sweet girl. And I love her choice of favourite animal. It was my son’s too. She sounds like she’s thriving. Happy belated birthday little one x

    • heelsandhooves
      August 22, 2018 / 10:18 pm

      Thank you so much lovely. Monkeys rule ๐Ÿ˜‰ xx

  8. August 23, 2018 / 10:35 am

    Oh my, what a lovely post. I love her chimp cake, itโ€™s really cute. Whatva lucky girl to have so many friends and family members around to celebrate with.

    • heelsandhooves
      August 23, 2018 / 10:14 pm

      Thank you so much lovely. She is lucky to be so loved xx

  9. August 24, 2018 / 7:45 pm

    Oh what a beautiful letter. Three is such a magic age although I know exactly what you mean about it being bittersweet. Sounds like she had an amazing birthday and I love her cake and favourite animal. My eldest is a bit of a Monkey! xx

    • heelsandhooves
      September 2, 2018 / 9:10 pm

      Thank you so much. I do love this age, but where did my baby go?!? xx

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